[Vnbiz] Staying to be a leader

Wed Mar 14 07:59:27 PDT 2007

Hi All,

One more on the leader, great writing Hoanh.

Uhmmm...pushing versus pulling.

The leader who pushes is more simply a manager.  A leader is not a leader
because of a position, the president of a country may not be a leader, like
he who leads my country, not a leader, perhaps not even a manager, but that
is another  discussion.

Leaders have special characteristics and responsibilities.  Leaders must set
the example themselves but also have a duty to develop those who follow.
Each person is different, a leader must recognize those differences and work
to enhance each persons strengths while helping them to overcome their
deficiencies in respect to each individual.

Being a leader is a tall order, a difficult task, and not all who "lead" are
leaders.  Leadership is something more than being the boss.

But leaders can get more satisfaction for organizations, more satisfaction
for employees, more harmony in organizations, and better results for
organizations.

Leaders don't push, but they do pull from the weight of their personal
integrity and desire to see all become leaders,  whatever their role in the
organization.

Craig

On 3/14/07, Vu Truong Giang <giangvt at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> [ Vietnam Business Forum ]
>
>
> Dear anh Hoanh, sis Huong and CACC,
>
> Leadership is my favourite topic of my thinking. I myself believe that
> raising leadership spirit in our community is one important key to improve
> our nation (Vietnam) 's culture. (From my framework of thinking, culture
> play an foundation role for any form of grow up and development).
>
> About sis Huong's question, I agreed with anh Hoanh's note. It's very
> important point that the word "leader " is from one verb: ""lead" (ke'o or
> dan dat in Vietnamese). Leadership is not "pushing" people. The different
> between leading or pushing is that:
> - When leader focus on leading, they also focus on their personal
> development first, stay on their course, go ahead and show other people the
> way, but let them make up their mind. By the way of focusing in leading,
> leader see other people by broad view, tolerant view and can understand
> deeply their follower 's heart. It's the time and point to build the power
> of team spirit and make a change, deeply change.
> - When leader focus on pushing, they firstly stop themselves on
> development, and then see other people with "only" their point of view
> (sometime that point of view is very right), the leader will be disappointed
> with his/her follower. The leader now also give their follower many negative
> criticism, and (may be) use that criticism to flirt leader's ego ("tự ngã"
> in Vietnamese). The most important point is that the leader will stop their
> effort to develop himself /herself and spend that effort to try to push
> other's change. It's the time to create conflict and crisis on team.
>
> The trap in our thinking, in our mind is not easy to realizes, especially
> when we are an intelligent man. But as anh Hoanh saying: "Leadership is not
> only about mind or brain, leadership is the work of hear". I myselft made
> mistakes on "pushing type" of leadership many times in past, and now I'm
> sharing my insight and reflect to all VNBizer who are decided to be a
> leader.
>
> Understand people (humanity) deeply, understand values deeply, and bring
> good value to people is the passion of all "true" leader. I believe that if
> we keep the "serving attitude" as the core value of leadership, we can find
> ourself the way to overcome any obstacles or trap.
>
> Thanks all for sharing.
>
> Giang
>
> vtg
>
> On 3/14/07, Tran Dinh Hoanh <tdhoanh at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > [ Vietnam Business Forum ]
> >
> >
> > Dear Sister Thu Huong, Brother Giang & CACC,
> >
> > Thanks for the notes.  Brother Giang has a very good answer to sister
> > Thu Huong's good question.  The best way to deal with everyone around is to
> > stay your course and prove to everyone that you win and succeed
> > by standing firm on your principles.
> >
> > Of course, you always want to share with your friends what you believe
> > in your heart.  After all, that is what friendship is all about--sharing.
> > But keep in mind that people only hear what their heart wants to hear, at
> > the time it wants to hear.  You may be 100-percent correct and may be
> > the most persuasive talker in the world, but if the time is not right for
> > your friend yet, he will not understand what you say.  A very simple point,
> > sometimes a person can appreciate it right away, sometimes it takes him 10
> > years to understand it, sometimes he never understands it all his life.
> > That has nothing to do with the complexity of the subject matter; it has a
> > lot to do with the heart.
> >
> > "Understanding" is not a matter of intellectuality, but a matter of the
> > heart.  Consider this ancient quote: "You may be hearing but never
> > understanding, seeing but never perceiving, for your heart has become
> > callous."  When our heart is right, we understand a point, when our heart is
> > not right, we simply cannot understand it.
> >
> > So you may want to share a word or two with your friends, but that is
> > all.  Let them make their choice.  Don't spend too much time trying to
> > convince them.  If they get it, they get it.  If they don't get it, they
> > don't get it.  Too much trying and pushing doesn't help and may only annoy
> > people.
> >
> > So, the best way is to stay your course.  And people will learn quietly
> > from your action.
> >
> > Great day, Thu Huong, Giang & all.
> >
> > Hoanh
> >
> >
> > On 3/13/07, huong dang thu <hdangthu at gmail.com > wrote:
> > >
> > > [ Vietnam Business Forum ]
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > "Stay the way you are to be the leader" , so inspiring! I was strongly
> > > reminded by you, bro.
> > >
> > > just wish my peers also understand this point. I will forward this to
> > > my friends.
> > >
> > > And I want to ask a bit. I can see that "Many idealistic and talented
> > > college students would become negative and lethargic in later years". I can
> > > see some of my friends get exhausted with the way life runs with negative,
> > > tired things, so they change to be lethargic as bro Hoanh said.
> > >
> > > But can we make them become energetic, optimistic, honest and fearless
> > > again? :( and how?
> > >
> > > HeO
> > > --
> > > Tran Dinh Hoanh, LLB, JD
> > > Attorney of Law
> > > Washington DC
> > >
> >
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