[Vnbiz] Staying to be a leader

[Vu Truong Giang]

Dear anh Hoanh, sis Huong and CACC,

Leadership is my favourite topic of my thinking. I myself believe that
raising leadership spirit in our community is one important key to improve
our nation (Vietnam) 's culture. (From my framework of thinking, culture
play an foundation role for any form of grow up and development).

About sis Huong's question, I agreed with anh Hoanh's note. It's very
important point that the word "leader " is from one verb: ""lead" (ke'o or
dan dat in Vietnamese). Leadership is not "pushing" people. The different
between leading or pushing is that:
- When leader focus on leading, they also focus on their personal
development first, stay on their course, go ahead and show other people the
way, but let them make up their mind. By the way of focusing in leading,
leader see other people by broad view, tolerant view and can understand
deeply their follower 's heart.It's the time and point to build the power of
team spirit and make a change, deeply change.
- When leader focus on pushing, they firstly stop themselves on development,
and then see other people with "only" their point of view (sometime that
point of view is very right), the leader will be disappointed with his/her
follower. The leader now also give their follower many negative criticism,
and (may be) use that criticism to flirt leader's ego ("tự ngã" in
Vietnamese). The most important point is that the leader will stop their
effort to develop himself /herself and spend that effort to try to push
other's change. It's the time to create conflict and crisis on team.

The trap in our thinking, in our mind is not easy to realizes, especially
when we are an intelligent man. But as anh Hoanh saying: "Leadership is not
only about mind or brain, leadership is the work of hear". I myselft made
mistakes on "pushing type" of leadership many times in past, and now I'm
sharing my insight and reflect to all VNBizer who are decided to be a
leader.

Understand people (humanity) deeply, understand values deeply, and bring
good value to people is the passion of all "true" leader. I believe that if
we keep the "serving attitude" as the core value of leadership, we can find
ourself the way to overcome any obstacles or trap.

Thanks all for sharing.

Giang

vtg

On 3/14/07, Tran Dinh Hoanh <tdhoanh at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> [ Vietnam Business Forum ]
>
>
> Dear Sister Thu Huong, Brother Giang & CACC,
>
> Thanks for the notes.  Brother Giang has a very good answer to sister Thu
> Huong's good question.  The best way to deal with everyone around is to stay
> your course and prove to everyone that you win and succeed by standing firm
> on your principles.
>
> Of course, you always want to share with your friends what you believe in
> your heart.  After all, that is what friendship is all about--sharing.  But
> keep in mind that people only hear what their heart wants to hear, at the
> time it wants to hear.  You may be 100-percent correct and may be the most
> persuasive talker in the world, but if the time is not right for your friend
> yet, he will not understand what you say.  A very simple point, sometimes a
> person can appreciate it right away, sometimes it takes him 10 years to
> understand it, sometimes he never understands it all his life.  That has
> nothing to do with the complexity of the subject matter; it has a lot to do
> with the heart.
>
> "Understanding" is not a matter of intellectuality, but a matter of the
> heart.  Consider this ancient quote: "You may be hearing but never
> understanding, seeing but never perceiving, for your heart has become
> callous."  When our heart is right, we understand a point, when our heart is
> not right, we simply cannot understand it.
>
> So you may want to share a word or two with your friends, but that is
> all.  Let them make their choice.  Don't spend too much time trying to
> convince them.  If they get it, they get it.  If they don't get it, they
> don't get it.  Too much trying and pushing doesn't help and may only annoy
> people.
>
> So, the best way is to stay your course.  And people will learn quietly
> from your action.
>
> Great day, Thu Huong, Giang & all.
>
> Hoanh
>
>
> On 3/13/07, huong dang thu <hdangthu at gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > [ Vietnam Business Forum ]
> >
> >
> >
> > "Stay the way you are to be the leader" , so inspiring! I was strongly
> > reminded by you, bro.
> >
> > just wish my peers also understand this point. I will forward this to my
> > friends.
> >
> > And I want to ask a bit. I can see that "Many idealistic and talented
> > college students would become negative and lethargic in later years". I can
> > see some of my friends get exhausted with the way life runs with negative,
> > tired things, so they change to be lethargic as bro Hoanh said.
> >
> > But can we make them become energetic, optimistic, honest and fearless
> > again? :( and how?
> >
> > HeO
> > --
> > Tran Dinh Hoanh, LLB, JD
> > Attorney of Law
> > Washington DC
> >
>
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