[Vnbiz] Điểm danh vài thói xấu (The Bad Habits of Vietnamese)

Binh, Vu The binh at netnam.vn
Fri Sep 29 10:00:01 PDT 2006 

Dear a. Hoanh, et CACC,

How do you say about the following opinions which I think many of us have 
known already.

The different between the education system between Japan and Vietnam:
- Japan education system always says: Japan doesn't have good natural 
resources, doesn't have "golden forests, silver sea". And now they are the 
second richest country in the world.
- Vietnam one always says: Vietnam has "golden forests, silver sea", the 
Vietnamese people is hard-work, smart. And Vietnam is still one of the 
poorest country in the world.

Have a nice weekend,

Binh.
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e-mail: binh at netnam.vn

----- Original Message ----- 
From: Tran Dinh Hoanh
To: vnbiz at vietlinks.net
Sent: 29/09/2006 10:44 PM
Subject: Re: [Vnbiz] Điểm danh và i thói xấu (The Bad Habits of 
Vietnamese)



[Vietnam Business Forum]







Dear Brother Toan & CACC,

Thanks for posting the list of "the Bad of the Vietnamese," brother Toan. 
My first reaction to the list is that many of the so-called bad habits are 
universal, typical human habits, why say 'Vietnamese"?  Examples start from 
the first item:  Not yet rich, already looking down on the poor.  What does 
this have to do with the Vietnamese?  We go to any country in the world and 
we will see lots and lots of people like that.

Some of the "bad habits" are not even bad.  Example: Not yet talking, 
already laughing.  What's wrong with that?  If you meet me in the morning 
and laugh "Ho ho ho... How are you today, anh Hoanh?"  You would make my 
day.  I would feel happy for the entire day, like I've just met Santa Claus.

But here is my real problem.  Why do we have to focus on our so-called 
"weaknesses" so much?   Why do we have to always focus on how bad we are in 
this, how weak we are in that?  Why do we have to be so obsessed with our 
own so-called "weaknesses"?

Of course, we should be aware of our weaknesses and limitations, just so 
that we know our Self.  And we should improve our weaknesses as much as we 
can.  But in order for us to grow strong, to win, to be victorious through 
life, we have to focus on our strength, our advantage, not on our weakness, 
our disadvantage.

If you don't have a good voice, why keep complaining how bad your voice is 
and how you would never be able to compete with My Linh or Quang Dung? 
Should you focus on your strength, say, a very logical mind, to become a 
mathematician instead?  If you body is slender and light, should you try to 
be a body builder instead of a swimmer?  And as a nation, should Vietnam 
focus on the industries it can't do so well, instead of the industries it 
have great competitive advantage?

The point is that:  Instead of being obsessed with how bad we are, let's 
focus on how good we are.  In stead of dwelling on our weaknesses, let's 
develop our strength to the max.

When we are obsessed with our "weaknesses," we lose confidence in our Self, 
we become small-minded, uncreative, unmotivated.   When we focus on our 
strength, we will be confident, happy, and therefore creative and motivated. 
And when we are confident and successful, chances are we have automatically 
overcome many weaknesses.

There was girl who had a beautiful voice that many people like.  Everyone 
told her that she would be a great singer some day.  And she believed that 
she would be a great singer.  But she was arrogant and impatient.  She 
looked down on the people who didn't have a good voice and  was quick to 
throw a tantrum at anyone or anything that displeased her.

She practiced singing everyday with a passion in her heart, with the 
unshakable belief that she would be a great singer some day.  Her musician 
friends help her practice, but they soon left her one after another, because 
she was too arrogant and impatient with them.  But she kept on practicing. 
Many times she had to apologize and beg her friends to come back to help her 
practice.  She entered many auditions, and failed many times.  But her 
singing passion kept her moving.  And she made her way slowly, until a day 
when an executive of a record company spotted her voice in an audition and 
offered to made the first record for her.  Her career took off.

Some of her old friends now come to see her, the famous singer, and they are 
surprised  how she has changed.  She is much more humble and patient.  The 
arrogant and impatient girl of the old days has disappeared.  Why?  She 
seems not to notice that change.  But the years of practicing, practicing, 
practicing each song, each note hundreds of times, has taught her patience. 
And the loads and loads of hard labor she put into singing practice has 
taught her the appreciation for beautiful things in life and their creators. 
In a restaurant, having a good dish, she understands how much training, 
practice and artistry the chef has put into her dish.  Walking on the polish 
floor of a hotel, she knows how much hard work the cleaner has poured on to 
the floor.

When we focus our heart and mind into our developing our strength, we will 
automatically erase lots of our weaknesses.  When we are obsessed with our 
weaknesses, we are doomed to defeat.

Each of us has his/her unique talents, unique gifts.  In the biblical 
tradition, each of us is created in the image of God.  In the Buddhist 
tradition, our true nature is Buddha.  We already have the strength, the 
greatness embedded deep inside us.  Let's focus on how beautiful we are, how 
wonderful we are, how loving, how motivating, how creative, how hardworking, 
how happy, how great we are.  Never forget that we possess God's image, that 
we have the seed of Enlightenment in us.  Let's focus on building our 
wonders, our strength, our advantage,   Let's focus on polishing the jewel 
in each of us.  The jewel will shine away all our stains and will bring us 
victory.

Have a great day!

Hoanh
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On 9/28/06, ToanDucPham at GMail.com <toanducpham at gmail.com> wrote:

[Vietnam Business Forum]








Cac Anh Chi Em VnBizers co muon phat bieu gi ve bai bao duoi day khong a?
Than men,
Toan.

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http://www.tienphongonline.com.vn/Tianyon/Index.aspx?ArticleID=61666&ChannelID=7

Thứ Năm, 28/09/2006, 09:03
Điểm danh và i thói xấu
TP - Không chỉ là của nhiều người mà nguy hiểm hơn, dường 
như là biểu hiện cư xử điển hình của số đông trong xã 
hội, có nguy cơ liên tưởng đến một tập tính của cộng đồng.
Chưa già u đã khinh người – vừa bớt nghèo đã lụy già u.
Chưa đỗ ông nghè đã đe hà ng tổng – vừa đe hà ng tổng đã 
sợ "thằng mõ".
Chưa quen đã thân – vừa thân đã sơ.
Chưa hiểu Lễ đã nói đến Nghĩa – vừa là m chút Nghĩa đã 
kịp gây oán ân.
Chưa biết đạo là m con đã là m phận cha – vừa là m cha đã 
quên mất phận là m con.
Chưa đến đã đi – vừa đi đã bà n lùi.
Chưa hiểu đã bình luận – vừa bình luận đã cãi nhau.
Chưa vui đã cười – vừa cười đã khóc.
Chưa là m đã mệt – vừa mệt đã kêu.
Chưa hè đã hội – vừa hội đã tan.
Chưa đói đã ăn – vừa ăn đã bỏ dở.
Chưa có Tà i đã đánh mất Tâm – vừa mới có chút Tâm đã bà 
i xích Tà i.
Chưa biết nghề đã dạy thợ – vừa dạy thợ đã chán 
nghề.
Chưa Tết đã nhất – vừa Nhất đã Bét.
Chưa thấy giống đã đồng nhất – vừa đồng nhất đã lai 
căng.
Chưa tỉnh đã say - vừa say đã là m cà n.
Chưa thấy khác đã phân biệt – vừa phân biệt đã tha hóa.
Chưa hỏi đã nói – vừa nói đã sai.
Chưa hiểu đạo người đã rất háo danh – vừa có chút danh đã 
coi thường mọi giá trị.
Luôn tìm kiếm sự giống mình để tự an ủi chứ không phải 
là cầu thị tìm sự khác biệt mà học tập.
Nguyễn Tất Thịnh
(Nhà 18T2, Trung Hòa- Nhân Chính- Hà Nội)

-- 
Tran Dinh Hoanh, LLB, JD
Attorney of Law
Washington DC



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