[Vnbiz] Điểm danh vài thói xấu (The Bad Habits of Vietnamese)

Fri Sep 29 08:44:01 PDT 2006

Dear Brother Toan & CACC,

Thanks for posting the list of "the Bad of the Vietnamese," brother Toan.
My first reaction to the list is that many of the so-called bad habits are
universal, typical human habits, why say 'Vietnamese"?  Examples start from
the first item:  Not yet rich, already looking down on the poor.  What does
this have to do with the Vietnamese?  We go to any country in the world and
we will see lots and lots of people like that.

Some of the "bad habits" are not even bad.  Example: Not yet talking,
already laughing.  What's wrong with that?  If you meet me in the
morning and laugh "Ho ho ho... How are you today, anh Hoanh?"  You would
make my day.  I would feel happy for the entire day, like I've just met
Santa Claus.

But here is my real problem.  Why do we have to focus on our so-called
"weaknesses" so much?   Why do we have to always focus on how bad we are in
this, how weak we are in that?  Why do we have to be so obsessed with our
own so-called "weaknesses"?

Of course, we should be aware of our weaknesses and limitations, just so
that we know our Self.  And we should improve our weaknesses as much as we
can.  But in order for us to grow strong, to win, to be victorious through
life, we have to focus on our strength, our advantage, not on our weakness,
our disadvantage.

If you don't have a good voice, why keep complaining how bad your voice is
and how you would never be able to compete with My Linh or Quang Dung?
Should you focus on your strength, say, a very logical mind, to become a
mathematician instead?  If you body is slender and light, should you try to
be a body builder instead of a swimmer?  And as a nation, should Vietnam
focus on the industries it can't do so well, instead of the industries
it have great competitive advantage?

The point is that:  Instead of being obsessed with how bad we are, let's
focus on how good we are.  In stead of dwelling on our weaknesses, let's
develop our strength to the max.

When we are obsessed with our "weaknesses," we lose confidence in our Self,
we become small-minded, uncreative, unmotivated.   When we focus on our
strength, we will be confident, happy, and therefore creative and
motivated.  And when we are confident and successful, chances are we have
automatically overcome many weaknesses.

There was girl who had a beautiful voice that many people like.  Everyone
told her that she would be a great singer some day.  And she believed that
she would be a great singer.  But she was arrogant and impatient.  She
looked down on the people who didn't have a good voice and  was quick
to throw a tantrum at anyone or anything that displeased her.

She practiced singing everyday with a passion in her heart, with the
unshakable belief that she would be a great singer some day.  Her musician
friends help her practice, but they soon left her one after another, because
she was too arrogant and impatient with them.  But she kept on practicing.
Many times she had to apologize and beg her friends to come back to help her
practice.  She entered many auditions, and failed many times.  But her
singing passion kept her moving.  And she made her way slowly, until a day
when an executive of a record company spotted her voice in an audition and
offered to made the first record for her.  Her career took off.

Some of her old friends now come to see her, the famous singer, and they are
surprised  how she has changed.  She is much more humble and patient.  The
arrogant and impatient girl of the old days has disappeared.  Why?  She
seems not to notice that change.  But the years of practicing, practicing,
practicing each song, each note hundreds of times, has taught her patience.
And the loads and loads of hard labor she put into singing practice has
taught her the appreciation for beautiful things in life and their
creators.  In a restaurant, having a good dish, she understands how
much training, practice and artistry the chef has put into her dish.
Walking on the polish floor of a hotel, she knows how much hard work the
cleaner has poured on to the floor.

When we focus our heart and mind into our developing our strength, we will
automatically erase lots of our weaknesses.  When we are obsessed with our
weaknesses, we are doomed to defeat.

Each of us has his/her unique talents, unique gifts.  In the biblical
tradition, each of us is created in the image of God.  In the Buddhist
tradition, our true nature is Buddha.  We already have the strength, the
greatness embedded deep inside us.  Let's focus on how beautiful we are, how
wonderful we are, how loving, how motivating, how creative, how hardworking,
how happy, how great we are.  Never forget that we possess God's image, that
we have the seed of Enlightenment in us.  Let's focus on building our
wonders, our strength, our advantage,   Let's focus on polishing the jewel
in each of us.  The jewel will shine away all our stains and will bring us
victory.

Have a great day!

Hoanh
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On 9/28/06, ToanDucPham at GMail.com <toanducpham at gmail.com> wrote:
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> Thứ Năm, 28/09/2006, 09:03
> Điểm danh vài thói xấu
> TP - Không chỉ là của nhiều người mà nguy hiểm hơn, dường như là biểu hiện
> cư xử điển hình của số đông trong xã hội, có nguy cơ liên tưởng đến một tập
> tính của cộng đồng.
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>    1. Chưa giàu đã khinh người – vừa bớt nghèo đã lụy giàu.
>    2. Chưa đỗ ông nghè đã đe hàng tổng – vừa đe hàng tổng đã sợ "thằng
>    mõ".
>    3. Chưa quen đã thân – vừa thân đã sơ.
>    4. Chưa hiểu Lễ đã nói đến Nghĩa – vừa làm chút Nghĩa đã kịp gây oán
>    ân.
>    5. Chưa biết đạo làm con đã làm phận cha – vừa làm cha đã quên mất
>    phận làm con.
>    6. Chưa đến đã đi – vừa đi đã bàn lùi.
>    7. Chưa hiểu đã bình luận – vừa bình luận đã cãi nhau.
>    8. Chưa vui đã cười – vừa cười đã khóc.
>    9. Chưa làm đã mệt – vừa mệt đã kêu.
>    10. Chưa hè đã hội – vừa hội đã tan.
>    11. Chưa đói đã ăn – vừa ăn đã bỏ dở.
>    12. Chưa có Tài đã đánh mất Tâm – vừa mới có chút Tâm đã bài xích
>    Tài.
>    13. Chưa biết nghề đã dạy thợ – vừa dạy thợ đã chán nghề.
>    14. Chưa Tết đã nhất – vừa Nhất đã Bét.
>    15. Chưa thấy giống đã đồng nhất – vừa đồng nhất đã lai căng.
>    16. Chưa tỉnh đã say - vừa say đã làm càn.
>    17. Chưa thấy khác đã phân biệt – vừa phân biệt đã tha hóa.
>    18. Chưa hỏi đã nói – vừa nói đã sai.
>    19. Chưa hiểu đạo người đã rất háo danh – vừa có chút danh đã coi
>    thường mọi giá trị.
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> Luôn tìm kiếm sự giống mình để tự an ủi chứ không phải là cầu thị tìm sự
> khác biệt mà học tập.
> Nguyễn Tất Thịnh
> (Nhà 18T2, Trung Hòa- Nhân Chính- Hà Nội)
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Tran Dinh Hoanh, LLB, JD
Attorney of Law
Washington DC
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