[Vnbiz] Điểm danh vài thói xấu (The Bad Habits of Vietnamese)

Sun Oct 1 21:56:38 PDT 2006

Dear anh Hoanh & CACC,

Thanks anh Hoanh very much for this posting. I love the paragragh no. 9 in
your writing most!

Have a great day!

Hai.

On 9/29/06, Tran Dinh Hoanh <tdhoanh at gmail.com> wrote:
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> Dear Brother Toan & CACC,
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> Thanks for posting the list of "the Bad of the Vietnamese," brother Toan.
> My first reaction to the list is that many of the so-called bad habits are
> universal, typical human habits, why say 'Vietnamese"?  Examples start from
> the first item:  Not yet rich, already looking down on the poor.  What does
> this have to do with the Vietnamese?  We go to any country in the world and
> we will see lots and lots of people like that.
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> Some of the "bad habits" are not even bad.  Example: Not yet talking,
> already laughing.  What's wrong with that?  If you meet me in the
> morning and laugh "Ho ho ho... How are you today, anh Hoanh?"  You would
> make my day.  I would feel happy for the entire day, like I've just met
> Santa Claus.
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> But here is my real problem.  Why do we have to focus on our so-called
> "weaknesses" so much?   Why do we have to always focus on how bad we are in
> this, how weak we are in that?  Why do we have to be so obsessed with our
> own so-called "weaknesses"?
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> Of course, we should be aware of our weaknesses and limitations, just so
> that we know our Self.  And we should improve our weaknesses as much as we
> can.  But in order for us to grow strong, to win, to be victorious through
> life, we have to focus on our strength, our advantage, not on our weakness,
> our disadvantage.
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> If you don't have a good voice, why keep complaining how bad your voice is
> and how you would never be able to compete with My Linh or Quang Dung?
> Should you focus on your strength, say, a very logical mind, to become a
> mathematician instead?  If you body is slender and light, should you try to
> be a body builder instead of a swimmer?  And as a nation, should Vietnam
> focus on the industries it can't do so well, instead of the industries
> it have great competitive advantage?
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> The point is that:  Instead of being obsessed with how bad we are, let's
> focus on how good we are.  In stead of dwelling on our weaknesses, let's
> develop our strength to the max.
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> When we are obsessed with our "weaknesses," we lose confidence in our
> Self, we become small-minded, uncreative, unmotivated.   When we focus on
> our strength, we will be confident, happy, and therefore creative and
> motivated.  And when we are confident and successful, chances are we have
> automatically overcome many weaknesses.
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> There was girl who had a beautiful voice that many people like.  Everyone
> told her that she would be a great singer some day.  And she believed that
> she would be a great singer.  But she was arrogant and impatient.  She
> looked down on the people who didn't have a good voice and  was quick
> to throw a tantrum at anyone or anything that displeased her.
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> She practiced singing everyday with a passion in her heart, with the
> unshakable belief that she would be a great singer some day.  Her musician
> friends help her practice, but they soon left her one after another, because
> she was too arrogant and impatient with them.  But she kept on practicing.
> Many times she had to apologize and beg her friends to come back to help her
> practice.  She entered many auditions, and failed many times.  But her
> singing passion kept her moving.  And she made her way slowly, until a day
> when an executive of a record company spotted her voice in an audition and
> offered to made the first record for her.  Her career took off.
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> Some of her old friends now come to see her, the famous singer, and
> they are surprised  how she has changed.  She is much more humble and
> patient.  The arrogant and impatient girl of the old days has disappeared.
> Why?  She seems not to notice that change.  But the years of practicing,
> practicing, practicing each song, each note hundreds of times, has taught
> her patience.  And the loads and loads of hard labor she put into singing
> practice has taught her the appreciation for beautiful things in life and
> their creators.  In a restaurant, having a good dish, she understands how
> much training, practice and artistry the chef has put into her dish.
> Walking on the polish floor of a hotel, she knows how much hard work the
> cleaner has poured on to the floor.
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> When we focus our heart and mind into our developing our strength, we will
> automatically erase lots of our weaknesses.  When we are obsessed with our
> weaknesses, we are doomed to defeat.
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> Each of us has his/her unique talents, unique gifts.  In the biblical
> tradition, each of us is created in the image of God.  In the Buddhist
> tradition, our true nature is Buddha.  We already have the strength, the
> greatness embedded deep inside us.  Let's focus on how beautiful we are, how
> wonderful we are, how loving, how motivating, how creative, how hardworking,
> how happy, how great we are.  Never forget that we possess God's image, that
> we have the seed of Enlightenment in us.  Let's focus on building our
> wonders, our strength, our advantage,   Let's focus on polishing the jewel
> in each of us.  The jewel will shine away all our stains and will bring us
> victory.
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> Have a great day!
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> Hoanh
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> On 9/28/06, ToanDucPham at GMail.com <toanducpham at gmail.com> wrote:
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> > Cac Anh Chi Em VnBizers co muon phat bieu gi ve bai bao duoi day khong
> > a?
> > Than men,
> > Toan.
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> > http://www.tienphongonline.com.vn/Tianyon/Index.aspx?ArticleID=61666&ChannelID=7
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> > Thứ Năm, 28/09/2006, 09:03
> > Điểm danh vài thói xấu
> > TP - Không chỉ là của nhiều người mà nguy hiểm hơn, dường như là biểu
> > hiện cư xử điển hình của số đông trong xã hội, có nguy cơ liên tưởng đến một
> > tập tính của cộng đồng.
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> >    1. Chưa giàu đã khinh người – vừa bớt nghèo đã lụy giàu.
> >    2. Chưa đỗ ông nghè đã đe hàng tổng – vừa đe hàng tổng đã sợ
> >    "thằng mõ".
> >    3. Chưa quen đã thân – vừa thân đã sơ.
> >    4. Chưa hiểu Lễ đã nói đến Nghĩa – vừa làm chút Nghĩa đã kịp gây
> >    oán ân.
> >    5. Chưa biết đạo làm con đã làm phận cha – vừa làm cha đã quên mất
> >    phận làm con.
> >    6. Chưa đến đã đi – vừa đi đã bàn lùi.
> >    7. Chưa hiểu đã bình luận – vừa bình luận đã cãi nhau.
> >    8. Chưa vui đã cười – vừa cười đã khóc.
> >    9. Chưa làm đã mệt – vừa mệt đã kêu.
> >    10. Chưa hè đã hội – vừa hội đã tan.
> >    11. Chưa đói đã ăn – vừa ăn đã bỏ dở.
> >    12. Chưa có Tài đã đánh mất Tâm – vừa mới có chút Tâm đã bài xích
> >    Tài.
> >    13. Chưa biết nghề đã dạy thợ – vừa dạy thợ đã chán nghề.
> >    14. Chưa Tết đã nhất – vừa Nhất đã Bét.
> >    15. Chưa thấy giống đã đồng nhất – vừa đồng nhất đã lai căng.
> >    16. Chưa tỉnh đã say - vừa say đã làm càn.
> >    17. Chưa thấy khác đã phân biệt – vừa phân biệt đã tha hóa.
> >    18. Chưa hỏi đã nói – vừa nói đã sai.
> >    19. Chưa hiểu đạo người đã rất háo danh – vừa có chút danh đã coi
> >    thường mọi giá trị.
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> > Luôn tìm kiếm sự giống mình để tự an ủi chứ không phải là cầu thị tìm sự
> > khác biệt mà học tập.
> > Nguyễn Tất Thịnh
> > (Nhà 18T2, Trung Hòa- Nhân Chính- Hà Nội)
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> Tran Dinh Hoanh, LLB, JD
> Attorney of Law
> Washington DC
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