[vn-families] Ba (3) Ca'ch Pha?n U+'ng Khi Gia^.n Du+~:

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Ba (3) Ca'ch Pha?n U+'ng Khi Gia^.n Du+~:

Ca'ch thu+' nha^'t:
Tie^'p tu.c gia^.n va` pha.t ngu+o+`i dda~ da'm la`m mi`nh gia^.n\. Gia?ng
dda.o ddu+'c (mo-ran), ca(`n nha(`n, va` ne^'u chu+a ddu?, thi` mi`nh
pha?i pha.t\. Mi`nh co' ly' do (justification) dde^? la`m vie^.c ddo'\.
La`m cho ke? ddo' ddau ho+n la` mi`nh dda~ bi. ddau dde^? ke? ddo'
to+?n to+'i gia`\.

Ca'ch thu+' hai: Cha.y tro^'n ca'i gia^.n ba(`ng ca'ch dda('m mi`nh va`o
ba^.n ro^.n - mua sa('m, do.n de.p, a(n uo^'ng, ru+o+.u che`, ti vi,
nha.c, ddo.c sa'ch, hoa(.c ...

Ca'ch thu+' ba: Cha^'p nha^.n ca'i gia^.n ma` kho^ng pha'n xe't, kho^ng
ddo^? thu+`a, kho^ng gia?i thi'ch\. Mi`nh quan sa't ca?m gia'c gia^.n
trong mi`nh, va` mi`nh dde^? y' to+'i ho+i tho+?\. Mi`nh tu+. kha'm pha'
ra nha^n qua?, va` tu+. mi`nh su+?a mi`nh tru+o+'c\.

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Ba^'t ke^? qui' vi. cho.n phu+o+ng pha'p na`o, qui' vi. thu+? nghie^.m
xem nhu+~ng su+. tha^.t du+o+'i dda^y co' ho+.p ly' kho^ng:

Kho^? tho. va` la.c tho.
Nhu+ ma^y tro+`i theo gio'
Ho+i tho+? la` da^y neo
Thuye^`n ve^` no+i be^'n cu~
(Nguo^`n: Tha^`y Thi'ch Nha^'t Ha.nh)

oOo
Pha^.t ngo^n: Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with
the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets
burned.
(Nguo^`n: Perry Garfinkel,
http://www.jewishsf.com/content/2-0-/module/displaystory/story_id/30585/format/html/displaystory.html)


Cha`o

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